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Candy Buy Back & Expectations

Expectations

My oldest son brought home 14 pounds of candy on Halloween.  14 pounds. That’s 433 pieces in the event you were wondering.

And then the negotiating began.  I love that he goes for what he wants.  He is a tireless negotiator.  If we haven’t finished the process before bed, it will be the first thing he asks in the morning.  He is relentless in what he wants & will use just about any tactic to try to persuade you.

This time though, he negotiated himself right out of a deal.

He started with my husband, smart move, he’s much nicer than I am.  Initially he was gunning for $.10 per piece of candy, that $43.30.  When Scot didn’t initially shoot him down, but instead showed a sliver of consideration, he tried to solidify his deal by claiming that’s what we had paid him in the past.

I have no idea if that is what we paid him in the past, and I don’t care what I paid him in the past.  I can tell you there was no way I was giving the kid more than 40 bucks for having the time of his life with his friends.  Nice try though.

I inserted myself from the other room with a resounding, ‘absolutely not.’

He did the math for $.05 per piece, which is $21.65 and was more than disgruntled.  Compared the the $43 he had mentally put in his pocket, this $21 seemed like nearly nothing.

But let’s remember he’s 9 and it’s not.

I was good with the $20 offer, but instead of taking that, he gunned to split the middle at $30.  Again, solid negotiating move.  But I was tired & I also wasn’t going to pay him $30…I mean that’d mean I’d have to go to the bank & then break the $20, blah blah blah.:)

Then we all went to bed.

When I woke him up, his first question, with sleep still in his eyes, ‘so mom, $30?’

‘Yeah no, $20 take it or leave it & get ready for school.’

Packing lunches, he struck up the conversation again with his dad, still gunning for $30, and this is where he negotiated himself out of a deal.

Before I got started on my little rant, I sufficiently strapped on my mom jeans & found my mom voice.  Because here’s the deal, I am not in any way, shape or form obligated to buy his candy from him.  Lest he forget, I took the opportunity to remind him. I don’t even want his candy.  I certainly don’t need his 14 pounds of candy.  When I spend $20 of my money to buy his candy, I’m doing him a solid favor.  All I want to do with it is throw it away & I’m willing to pay $20 to do that.

What I am obligated to do, as his mother, is ensure he doesn’t actually eat 433 pieces of candy over the next 2 weeks.  That and make sure he doesn’t grow up to be entitled & act like an idiot.  A tall order, but more & more I can sniff out that entitled attitude from a mile away.  This one was rolling in like a steam train, pulling idiot right behind it.

And so his deal, promptly got cut to $18 and then nothing.  It’s kind of like standing in the Shark Tank, you roll your eyes at the deal or don’t take the deal and it goes away.

He loved that analogy & I’m pretty sure he’s going to love when I throw it away while he’s at school next week.

Probably not, but I bet next year, he expects $20 and is grateful for $20, which means I’ll probably give him $30.

Mom jeans for the win.

 

 

Daily Pampering with Dove

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With school in full swing our schedules are finally feeling ‘set.’  It takes all of us a couple weeks to really get settled & I feel like we’re finally there.  One thing I’ve added to my own schedule is more ‘me’ time.  I’m sure that sounds a bit selfish, but I’ve found when I take time to take care of myself, I’m better able to take care of everyone else.

So today, in partnership with Dove, I’m sharing 3 easy ways to pamper & take better care of yourself.

  1. Exercise.  This has taken all sorts of forms in the past, but these days I keep it really simple (that’s my new life’s motto: keep it simple) and wake up an hour earlier than I used to go for a walk before everyone else is awake.  It really is the perfect start to my day & I like it so much I haven’t even been bothered by the wake up time.  I’ll usually add some weights in later in the morning, after dropping my kids at school.  On the way home, I usually have to stop for something at Walmart, this week I picked up this while I was there, which leads me to my next point.
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    Shower.  And I mean like really shower! I know it sounds a bit elementary, but I often find myself skipping over this or cutting corners, rushing through.  The shower is a great place to think through your day.  My kids are old enough that they don’t bother me in the shower anymore, so I take my time.  I love using Dove Sweet Cream with Peony body wash to help replenish my skin’s nutrients. It gives me softer, smoother skin, which always feels like a treat.  Find your favorite, here.
  3. Get to bed!  Simple again, but getting a good night’s sleep, every night, is life changing.  Make it a priority, turn off the screens & put yourself to sleep.  If you add an early wake up time, this one gets easier & easier to follow.  Last night I was in bed by 8 pm.  No joke.

Hopefully you’re getting into the swing of a new school schedule & find a minute for yourself.  If you try the new Dove product line, let me know what you think.  Thanks to Dove at Walmart for sponsoring this post.

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Summer Diaries

It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down in this space…the truth is, we’ve been really busy…doing everything & nothing all at the same time.  The biggest change that we’ve tackled this summer is closing up shop over at Olive Lane. Well, it’s almost completely closed up, still shipping out a few odds & ends, but almost.  I’m sure I’ll expound on it more at some point soon, but for now, its been good & I’m excited to pursue other interests.

For the most part we’ve been living in the water…taking a few breaks to eat and relax in between.

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Both my kids did swim team for the first time this summer.  Liv is at the very youngest end of her age group & as such is the teensist, tiniest swimmer in her group.  I’ve been so proud of her swimming lap after lap keeping up & working hard to do it.   That and her in a swim cap is pretty amaze.

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Max has spent oodles of time watching the kids do swim team — he can’t start until next year & the swim lessons are too elementary for him, so he just chills with me.  Buuut in that time, he’s watch the kids learn their ‘racing’ dives & he obviously took note.  It took him about 5 seconds to have this mastered once we got home & it never gets old.  He’s got a killer cannonball & flip to go along with this bad boy.

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I try to pretend like I’m going to float & sometimes even act like I’m not going to get my hair yet…it hasn’t worked yet & I’m not complaining.

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Quiet time with these two is an oxymoron.  Max is most definitely the loudest person I know — he’s a real treat at church & the movies.  I’m glad he came third because I would have been really embarrassed by his antics if he was my first…now I’m just the first one laughing as I lug him out.

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I have no idea when the last time my kids showered, because this is our daily.  The best thing we ever did was buy a house with a pool.  Really.  Life changing.
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And it produces plenty of goggle pictures which I will love forever.

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Every now & again we have to be responsible & stock our pantry…it is always full of stupid antics of kids jumping on carts, hiding in shelves & sneaking about 153 random things in my cart.  Sometimes I want to pull my hair out because I’d like just 2.37 seconds to think about what I need for a certain recipe but usually just end up buying Takis, donuts & Chocolate Lucky Charms, because what the heck.  Case in point…see those circus animal crackers in my cart?  Those are not a regular item. 😉

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Soon enough, these knuckleheads will all be back in school and I’ll be missing them again.

November 26, 2016 - 9:26 am

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I Love Summer: 5 Ways You Can Love it Too

I love Summer

Every year towards the end of school, I start to get the summer itch.  By that point, I’m tired of making lunches every morning, tired of doing the after school pick up, drop off, run about.  Tired of homework & schedules, bedtimes & obligations.  Tired of all the structure & always having my kids gone here, there & everywhere.  By the end of the school year I am more than ready for the long, lazy days of summer & having my kids all to myself.

I know not everyone feels the same, but I love it.  That’s not to say we are all always frolicking through a meadow together, sharing & signing & playing nice.  We most assuredly are not always doing that.  But every now & again I do find my kids actually enjoying each other’s company…which is always a nice surprise.

I’ve found that in the summer months is the best, most time intensive season I have to teach them the things I want them to learn, which oddly enough, doesn’t include any pinterest crafts.  If you’re looking to enjoy your summer a little more & maybe like your kids & yourself along the way…here’s my 5 tips:

Manage Expectations: both yours & your kids.  At the end of each night, if you like to lay in bed & have a mental tally of the things you ‘got done’ during the day, I guarantee your summer is not going to be very enjoyable.  It’s just not the nature of the season.  To expect to check everything off your list every day is going to turn you all in to summer grouches.  Manage your own expectations & give yourself a break. This is not the season to tackle a big project that includes a to-do list a mile long each day.  That being said, feel free to make a list of one or two ‘must do’ things & allow yourself to feel accomplished if you’ve managed them when you lay yourself to sleep at night.  With your kids, let them in on the game plan: First we have to stop at the grocery store, then we can swim.  Give them something to look forward to while still accomplishing what you need to do.

Get Some Sleep: This summer, my kids are old enough to be staying up a bit later than they have in the past.  I’ve made the mistake of letting them stay up later than normal & then still enjoying my 2-3 hours of quiet time before getting myself to bed.  It hasn’t been pretty.  Some times I’m climbing into bed right after my kids, dirty dishes in the sink & all because SOMEONE has to be well-rested & it may as well be you.

Inflict A Schedule Upon Yourself: I know I started this whole thing telling you I was over being on a schedule, so when I say set a schedule for yourself, I mean it loosely.  Our summer schedule is pretty flexible, but mostly includes work out (for me) breakfast, swim team, chores, reading, lunch, and then…whatever we choose for the afternoon.  It might be friends, swimming or running errands, depending on the day.  Starting the day with a bit of routine allows you each to know what to expect & fall into a routine for the day.  Also, having a relatively routine schedule in the morning allows the TV & other screens to be off & by lunch you  feel like you’ve accomplished something & the guilt for wasting away the afternoon is usually pretty minimal. 😉

Take Care of You: Summer will kick your butt.  Go into it knowing that & schedule time to take care of yourself.  I workout most every morning on my back patio…its super glam, in case you were wondering, but I’ve found that 30 minutes to myself allows me to start my day on the right foot.  I also schedule a babysitter here & there to run errands solo or grab lunch with a friend.  My kids love it & so do I.  If a babysitter isn’t in the cards, head out when your husband gets home & skip bed time every now & again…you’ll be glad for the break.

Let Yourself Go: Jump in the pool, go on the hike, ride the waves, swing on the swings, I dare ya.  Be a kid again.  Don’t worry about keeping a perfect house, doing your hair or always having make-up on.  Its summer, live like you’re on vacation even when you aren’t…and somehow it will start to feel like a vacation for you  + your kids.

 

June 14, 2016 - 7:46 pm

Janet - Great post! I was always the odd man out with parents because I loved when the kids got out of school for summer. I too hate schedules, homework, activities running here and there all the time. I loved having my kids home. My daughter’s in college now and my son will be a senior in high school and I still love the end of the school year. It’s freeing still even though I don’t have as much to do during the school year (other than marching band volunteering – we’re hardcore with band – state champ 11 years in a row!) I say let kids be kids and don’t over schedule them in the summer. Let’s get back to the old days when kids could use their imagination and play without a pinterest craft or activity telling them what they needed to do/think. Don’t wrap them in a bubble, over parent or over manage. They are resourceful and will amaze you with what they come up with.

Easy Cooking: Breakfast Tacos

Breakfast Tacos
This past weekend, my husband was traveling, which means my minimal summer cooking is even more minimal.  BUT I did manage breakfast for dinner one night & really out did myself by included hash browns + bacon, for the soul purpose of making breakfast tacos the following day, pain free.  Most times I cook, I can manage to pull 2 meals from it & this is no exception.  And while we did eat these for ‘brunch’ on Saturday (because I stayed in bed a lengthy bit) I wouldn’t hesitate to serve these up for dinner…they are that good.

I mix + match the ingredients all the time & every time I’ve liked them.  This version includes:

scrambled eggs + mushrooms (I’ve included green onions in the past too)

hash browns

bacon

green salsa — recipe here

sour cream

In the past I’ve used ranch instead of sour cream & that was good too.

The trick on the tortillas is to flash fry them, I go into detail about that here.

Try them & let me know what you think!  If you post them to instagram, tag them #happyathome so I can see them.