We’ve had lots of changes around here over the last month & while we are finally starting to feel a little settled, I can’t help but be proud of these two especially. A new house, a new church congregation, a new school year with a big new school…it’s a lot of new. We went to Meet the Teacher precisely 4 days after moving the boxes into our new place & to say I felt overwhelmed was an understatement…I also felt hot, really really hot. Each year I find myself wanting & worrying about different things for my kids. One needs this, I’m concerned with one about this, hopefully one sorts this out, etc, etc.
In our old place, I would have had it all sorted & what I felt like was ‘under control’ months ahead of time. I knew the school & loved what it offered. I knew the teachers & knew just who I thought would be a good fit for each child. It would have been easy for me. In our new place, I was at the mercy of a few friends & their experiences (which were so valuable) but other than that, I had nothing to go on. I didn’t know the layout, the curriculum or even the schedule. And so…we found out lots on Meet the Teacher. A few things:
Their new school is huge. Perhaps it is actually just normal, but comparatively from where we came from, which was a small charter school, this place felt like a high school campus. I might have had a mild panic at the thought of sending my little daughter through those gates to navigate all that…I mean, I’m 33 and was struggling.
Their new school starts early. Like really early. On the flip, it gets out early & my kids are up anyway…but just cause they are up, I usually wasn’t & man alive, by 8 pm, I need toothpicks, or Parenthood to keep my eyes open.
Zack’s teacher is amazing. I was worried the most about him making the change & holy cow, he hit the teacher jackpot (thank you friend for the head’s up!). She is kind, organized & on her game. I kind of want to be in her class too. Major bonus is she also has a student teacher, which is like 2 for the price of 1. He came home from school the first day & declared it, ‘the best first day of school ever!’ So grateful he gets this experience.
Liv’s teacher, while I don’t know her as well, is equally awesome. I was hardly worried a bit about her making the change, because she tends to do well with it. I did, however, worry about her navigating her whereabouts though & man, she’s got it down. I’ve had to depend a lot on Zack to coordinate meeting with her and coming to pick up and helping her at drop off & they’ve managed to take care of each other, which I wish they did at home too! On the one day that they didn’t meet, she didn’t panic & found her way & I love that about her.
It’s been a month full of new experiences for all of us. New friends, new places, new challenges & while sometimes it makes me want to hang on tighter and tighter to them, I realize I actually have to do just the opposite. I have to step back & let them sort it out. It is the only way they will grow into the people I hope the become. Independent. Problem Solvers. Good Choice Makers. If I’m always over their shoulder letting them know what the good choice is, they never have the opportunity to think it through on their own, which won’t yield the results I want.
I’m pretty sure it’s been one of the harder things I’ve had to do as a parent…but when they experience success & realize it was them & not me, well I wouldn’t trade that for the world.
Here’s to a great year!