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Innovative Med Spa Giveaway & Taking Better Care

Over the last 8 years, I’ve been in what I could only call an intense phase of life: The birthing of babies phase.  My twenties slipped right past as I had babies that grew into toddlers & then added babies a couple times.  This is the biggest span of time that I have gone NOT pregnant in the last 8 years.  And now, I’m playing a bit of catching up with myself, by better taking care.  I’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else & I don’t say that begrudgingly, I happily signed up for this & wouldn’t trade it, but, let’s be honest, I usually fall to the end of the list.  I think most mother’s can admit to that.  It isn’t even that we don’t have the time or money, for me, it is moreso, the energy.  The energy to make an appointment, the energy to find a sitter, to make the trip, to schedule it in.  But it’s time.

I’m making a commitment to take better care & not feel guilty about it.  Why do we do that to ourselves?  I want to live a healthy, long life, so slowly but surely I’m making those doctor appointments.  I started with an easy one: a facial.  The last time I got a facial was 3 years ago & it was one that my brother gifted me for my birthday.  I loved it then, it was a little slice of heaven. I’m so happy I made another trip back to see my friend, Breanne at Innovative MedSpa.   When it comes to skin care, I’m completely clueless & she’s an expert.  I’ve always enjoyed relatively ‘good’ skin, but as time goes on, I want to make sure I’m doing my part to maintain & take care.  But first, I had to figure out what my part even was.  I’m so glad I sat down with her!  The biggest motivating thing we talked about was this: 20% of aging is genetics, that’s it.  The other 80% is outside factors like sun damage & smoking.  80% is outside factors.  Can you believe that?  I had no idea & I felt like Dumb & Dumber when I wanted to yell, ‘So you’re saying there’s a chance!’

I’ll fill you in on all the ingredients & products we talked about soon, but want to encourage you to take better care of yourself too…imagine, if we all encouraged each other to take a little bit better care.  Whether it’s a dentist appointment, a pedicure, that physical you’ve been putting off or just 15 minutes of solitude, let’s do it.  To help you start, I’m giving away a free HydraFacial from Innovative MedSpa (a $150 value).  This facial uses a hydradermabrasion technique that exfoliates & hydrates your skin.  Then a light chemical peel formula is applied to soften impurities for extraction and lightens pigmentation. The skin is infused with specialty serums that contain anti-aging antioxadants, collagen stimulating peptides, and hyaluronic acid which is known for its hydrating ability to hold up to 1,000x it’s weight in water.  All that & utter relaxation!
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March 26, 2015 - 8:52 am

Brimley McGrath - I know I’m young and not a mom…but I would seriously love to win this!!

March 26, 2015 - 9:16 am

Brandi Young - I plan to take better care of myself be staying honest with my emotions, needs and failures. I find that we try to move past what’s unpleasant or mundane but that doesn’t lead to a positive or carefree lifestyle.

March 26, 2015 - 9:17 am

Lamies - As a mom of a 13 month old. Also a full time Engineer, a full time wife and a full time house keeper add working out almost everyday It’s really hard to have time to keep up with my beauty regiment. But my goal is to be able to organize my team and take a good 15 min at night to take care of my self. I hope I win

March 26, 2015 - 9:25 am

mindy hermann - Oh I need this so bad. I never take care of my skin on my face!

March 26, 2015 - 9:25 am

Jamie Arnett - New mommy, needing to take some time for myself! What a sweet thing to do, OliveLane!

March 26, 2015 - 9:38 am

Rebecca - My son just turned 1 and I have yet to have time that’s just for me. I would live to learn new tips and tricks on how to take better care of my skin. I used to spend so much time in the sun and living in az I know protecting our skin is huge but that’s just 1 where my skin care stops sadly.

March 26, 2015 - 9:38 am

jenea ruthem - I’m a busy momma of 4 small kiddos! I would love to try to take more time to take care of myself too!

March 26, 2015 - 9:44 am

Kim - I would love to win this.

March 26, 2015 - 10:46 am

Brittany buchholz - I’d love to win this for my mama!! She’s always putting everyone else first and April 2 is her 53rd birthday!! She’s so deserving of this especially working two jobs and taking care of my 11 yr old brother, she doesn’t get to do anything for her self

March 26, 2015 - 1:03 pm

Stephanie - I’d love to win a facial! I’ve been thinking about doing a chemical peel but always chicken out :)

March 26, 2015 - 2:14 pm

Emali - Eating better!

March 27, 2015 - 6:54 am

Jill - Eating less sugar, drinking less diet coke, exercising 5 days a week, getting back into yoga, and taking better care of my skin

March 27, 2015 - 9:53 pm

Suzanne Miles - Winning a free hydrafacial would be so wonderful! Life gets busier and busier and there just doesn’t seem to be enough time to take care of me. I spend most of my time helping my daughter take care of her beautiful new baby.
Really, omly 20% of how we age is genetic?! Wow!

My Summer Beauty Must Haves

Summer is around the corner & with that, comes pared down schedules & beauty routines.  I love the fresh faces of summer where I’m in & out of the water & my skin has a nice healthy glow.  These 5 products have maintained a permanent spot on my vanity & they will become my go-to daily routine here shortly!

ONE // MAC BB Cream: Courtney over at The Beauty Mark Girls hooked me up with this & I can’t live without it now.  I use it as a foundation daily, it gives a nice dewy glow & goes on light weight.

TWO // e.l.f. Studio Eyebrow Kit:  This tip came from the beauty editor over & Lauren Kelp & that fact that I can pick it up at Target for $3.00, major win.  I’m loving a more defined brow & once again, my girl Courtney, convinced my of it’s merits & I’ve been a fan ever since.

THREE // EOS Lip Balm: Do yourself a favor & pick up the 5-pack the next time your at Costco.  I have them stashed in my purse, my bathroom & even the junk drawer in my kitchen.  Love every flavor.

FOUR // Maybelline Volum’Express The Rocket Mascara: I’ve tried what feels like a million different mascaras, some of the drugstore variety & some of the department store variety.  This is my favorite.

FIVE// NYX Lipstick in Strawberry Milk:  I randomly picked this lipstick up at The Rack one day & I love it.  I blot it & wear it with a gloss over top, the perfect pink for summer.

5 Things I’ve Learned About Friends in my 30′s

I’m to the point where I’m feeling nice & comfy in my 30′s., but it wasn’t always this way.  I’ve been here nearly 3 years & let me tell you, you’re 30′s can be a bit of a beast.  Studies show it is when your hormones swing the hardest & fastest & in my case, I turned 30, had baby number 3 & got a minivan all within 6 weeks of each other.  I thought it quite rude, but instead of crying about it I just strapped on my mom jeans & started a new business too.  Take that 30.

Three years deep & I’ve learned a thing or two, but today, I’m just focusing on what I’ve learned about friendships.  As women, I think friendships are so vital to us…I’ve been known to say that having good friends is much less than therapy & when you are in the dog days of motherhood, it’s true.  Most days, you just need someone that will roll with you, so why is that so hard to find?  Here’s what I’ve learned & hopefully it helps.

1. You can either go a mile wide & an inch deep, or an inch wide & a mile deep: I prefer the latter.  My friend circle is relatively small.  That isn’t to say I’m not friendly with lots & lots of people, with social media, you are ‘friendly’ with nearly everyone.  What it does mean, is that there are only a handful of people that know me inside & out & only a handful of people that I know inside & out.  I’ve found that in order to be a ‘good’ friend, I can’t spread myself too thin.  Sounds a bit egotistical, and I don’t mean to imply that people are clamoring at my door begging to be friends, they aren’t.  What is does mean is that I’m okay not being everyone’s best friend.

2. If you’re my friend, you understand that I might not always have time for you right now.  I guess you know why people aren’t clamoring at my door begging to be friends now.  But seriously, this is what I love most about my friends: they are not high maintenance.  Granted, if there were an emergency I’d drop everything, but as far as day-to-day?  This is not my time in life to see my friends every.single.day.  I have a house to run, a business to run, a husband to love & kids to care for.  I’m stretched pretty thin & they are too.  A good friend is one that, not only, doesn’t hold a grudge that I missed a night out, or a phone call, they, in fact, encourage me to take care of my home & family first.  They understand where my focus is & they support it at their own expense.  When we do have a second for each other, we pick up right where we left off.

3. If you don’t like me cause I’m nice to you, I don’t care.  This is a rude way of saying always be nice, which is something I learned in high school & have been practicing ever since.  Let me tell you, some days are easier than others!  The latter part is this: don’t lose sleep over the people that don’t care for you.  You’re 30 years old for crying out loud!  Trust me, I have plenty of people that I’m sure don’t care for me, but I’ve come to terms with that fact that not everyone is going to understand where I’m coming from & not everyone is going to understand my humor or sarcasm.  The goal for me to is to make sure my intent is good & genuine, when it is, I’m happy to let the cards fall where they may & not lose sleep over whether someone misread what I said, repeated what I said out of context or blah. blah. blah.  If that is how someone else wants to play me, it’s fine.  But if I’m being honest, ain’t nobody got time for that.  So just assume good intentions & move on.

4. Speaking of genuine.  Be genuine.  This is the quality I love most in my friends & the quality I try most to offer.  Just be genuine.  If you’re having a bad day, let me know, I can usually find something in it to laugh about, but if not, I’m happy to cry with you too.  Or we can do the laughing while we are crying thing too…my sister is really good at listening to me do that one.  I appreciate that everyone is different & I love the differences between me & my friends.  Even more, I love that we can laugh over them & rely on each other to fill in where we know another lacks.  No joke, my sister asks me on the regular to make difficult phone calls for her & I ask her on the regular to talk me off the edge of a cliff.

5. Extend yourself.  I really learned this in high school, but I learned it again in my 30′s as well.  My family moved across town when I was 15 & with that I was the ‘new girl.’  I sat alone at lunch some days & didn’t know hardly a soul my first day of 10th grade.  I will never ever forget how lonely that felt.  From that time on, I’d never see a new girl that I wouldn’t immediately invite into my circle.  While none of us are 15 anymore, sometimes the day-to-day of motherhood is equally lonesome.  Look for those around you where you might be able to extend a hand.  I know I can tell you, by name, the people that offered me that courtesy in high school.  Over the years, I’ve discovered some of my truest friends in this way, where either I’ve extended myself to them, or vice versa.  We are all in this together & if we can find an ounce of compassion for one another strong friendships are sure to flourish.

Since gift giving is a sure way to also strengthen friendships, leave a comment letting us know your favorite character trait in a friend to be entered to win a Roll With Me tee for you + a friend, then head over to instagram (@olivelaneshop) & tag all your friends you’re grateful to roll with.

 

March 24, 2015 - 10:02 am

Lesa - Enter me in the Roll with me give away. Please, I couldn’t find it on the blog.

March 24, 2015 - 10:25 am

Hanna Caldwell - I really appreciate when friends are genuine too. Even though we both have busy lives of our own it’s always nice to get a text wondering how things are going or feeling like they really care and also can be real with me about how life with them is going. If definitely helps build a closer friendship. Having those close friends also helps so much with me keeping my sanity with taking care of kids and having a husband that travels!

March 24, 2015 - 10:52 am

Betsey Lee - Great post! I loved this. Spot on friend.

March 24, 2015 - 1:21 pm

andee - This is my first time visiting your blog and what perfect timing! I too have a few really close friends who really know and “get” me and I am so very grateful for them.

March 24, 2015 - 6:47 pm

Jill - I like genuine people,

On Being a Wife

Originally posted 6.20.13 & one of my favorits.  I needed the reminder myself & thought you might too.

In my stage of life, 32 with 3 kids 8 and under, I feel like so much talk is given to being a mother.  I give it a lot of stage time, no doubt.  But I loved this interview with Gabby Reece a couple year’s ago on NBC.  When the interview started, I thought, “oh great…another celebrity couple showing us how they can do it all.”  So naturally, I stopped what I was doing to listen.

I’m glad I did.  Because I was astonished at what she had to say.  Instead of telling America how she is the girl wonder — we’ve all heard that story a million times — she instead, explained the “old-fashioned dynamic” that exists within her home, saying, “I’m clearly the female; Laird’s clearly the male. I’m willing and I choose to serve the family which means dinner and laundry and organizing his schedule as well as my schedule and other things. And I’m choosing this because there’s something in this that works well for us because with Laird’s strengths and my strengths we can figure out how to complement each other.”

Finally.

She even went on to talk about him being the masculine one & her the feminine, saying, “To truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and — look out, here it comes — submissive.”

It wasn’t about being the same as a man.  I think we all know that men & women hold equal responsibilities in a marriage, but they are not the SAME.  Equal has never meant the same.  I don’t want to be a man & I don’t want a man’s responsibilities, because I am not a man & frankly, I can’t do what men do as well as men do.  Likewise, men cannot do what women do.

I caught another celebrity interview recently, with Faith Hill.  I’m sure you’ve seen Tim McGraw splashed all over the grocery store magazines.  Everyone loves his new physique {okay, it is noteworthy peeps!} & are amazed that he gave up alcohol to live a lifestyle more conducive to his family.  It was an interesting interview, where they of course asked, how do you do it?  I think they’ve been marred close to 15 years.  She noted that she took a back seat to his career to raise a family, but what she said next, I loved the most.  With a shrug of her shoulders, she simply replied, “I really love that man.  He’s my husband & I just love him.  I would do anything for him.”

It was so heartfelt & refreshing.  I loved that she just laid it out there, simply & beautifully, without any apology.  Sometimes I think we all worry so much about being mother of the year, that maybe we forget the person that allowed us that sacred job.  I’ve found myself pondering where to best spend my time in these young formative years with my kids & the thought has crossed my mind, that maybe their father needs to be moved up on the ladder, dare I say, even above my kids?

Some days I get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, worrying about getting kids to this & that & dinner made & running errands & cleaning the house, not to mention the yard.  Then I want to design too.  And take on clients for branding as well.  Oh and I want to go out with my friends this night & I have a million things to do for a church activity & he’s working like a maniac and suddenly, we never see each other, except for that one moment where our heads hit the pillow at the same time.  We mumble good night & are asleep in 10 seconds flat.

It didn’t use to be like this.  But as our kids have grown, so have our commitments.  Really.  We tried to get a weekend free on the calendar 2 months ago…and well, we still haven’t found one.  So far our saving grace has been weekend date nights.  Almost every weekend we manage to sneak away for an uninterrupted dinner.  It is my favorite night of the week.  A time to finally exchange thoughts, keep the other up to speed on what is transpiring in our household & sadly, a time to run nagging errands that need both of our uninterrupted attention!

Sometimes I miss those days of dating.  Remember when you just hung out all the time?  Man, we were really good at hanging out…and I was really good at ‘accidentally’ running into him.  Which was a real talent pre-Facebook days.  More on that another day.

I’m not a mushy person, but I’m grateful to have this man by my side.  The one that laughs at me when I’m freaking out — I usually don’t find it one bit funny in the moment, really, it’s not funny at all, but he helps me keep it in perspective.  And while I love my kids to the very core of my being, I love him more & that is worth saying & celebrating more often.

On My Nightstand

Before life seemed to speed up to warp speed, I considered myself an avid reader.  Really, I’ve always been a bit of a book worm, but these days books are stacking up faster than I can read them.  But here’s how my night stand stacks up these days.  I ‘won’ that Little Women book at a neighbor’s bunco party last month…by won, I mean I actually lost enough that I won.  It was on my list to read & then Anna Rifle worked her illustration magic & really, it’s a little slice of heaven it’s so cute.  I love everything about it.  Hoping I get to love reading it soon.

I started Unbroken3 years ago right after Max was born, but with a new baby, sleep was a commodity I wasn’t willing to trade & so it got shelved.  But now…I can’t wait to dig back into it.

The SPEED of Trust…I saw this on my husband’s night stand & stole it because it looked interesting & I probably won’t ever get through it cover to cover.  That being said, I’ll grab a chapter here & there & can’t wait to learn more about it.

American Sniper…guys, I need a whole post dedicated to this.  No movie has effected me in such a way as that one & I can’t wait to read this book.  I know it will overtake my life once I start, so I’ve got to pick the perfect window to neglect everyone & everything else.

On the top of my stack though?  This one: 30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 8-11.  (you can find the other ages, here& here).  Quite awhile ago, Scot & I decided 8 was the age where we would have ‘the talk’ with our kids.  And now, well here we are.  I honestly, spent an entire year debating how I was going to do this.  I guess in my mind, I thought it had to be some big sit down, cover everything discussion.  The elementary ed graduate in me, wanted flip charts & binders, the whole she-bang.  It felt daunting & completely overwhelming to me, which was my first indicator that that was not the right approach for us.  Over time, as I put more & more thought into, it has become something much different than that.  If I felt overwhelmed in presenting all that information at once, I can only imagine how my 8-year-old might feel.  ‘The talk’ isn’t a one-time, all-inclusive conversation.  These days, there is so much to cover & so many nuances that it is on-going, ever changing & evolving.

I was introduced to Educate Empower Kids & it was just what I was looking for.  It is a framework for me to organize my thoughts, form my own opinions & support me in my effort to educate & empower my own kids.  Their website is a wealth of useful tools to help you decide how to best approach & talk with your kids.  It isn’t a rule book for you to follow — merely a guideline with useful definitions & topics to cover, allowing you to communicate your own standards on important issues.

One of my main goals with my own kids is for them to trust me.  I’ve spent a lot of time pondering how to make that happen & the best way I can think of, is to be trust worthy.  Which means, when my kids ask me a question, I will answer it, even if it sometimes leaves me feeling frazzled.  As I’ve taken this approach, I’ve been so grateful for the meaningful conversations we’ve been able to have.  They are open, honest & age-appropriate, which allow for follow-up opportunities.  The more I practice, the more comfortable I’ve become.  I’ve found my favorite time of day to have these one-on-one talks is at bedtime.  It is free from the hustle & noise of the day & has no time limit…it doesn’t hurt that we’ve usually just had family prayers & my kids have had their personal prayers as well.